We Create our own life

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“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about Creating yourself.”- George Bernard Shaw

We often end up saying that life has made us what we are, but the reality is we have made our life whatever it is. The biggest truth of nature is that, we create our own life. Whether it’s what we always wanted it to be or we never wanted it to be, all of it is created by us.

If you spend your life regretting about the mistakes you have made, you won’t be able to move ahead. But if you try to learn from those mistakes you would definitely be able to live a better life. If you keep complaining that you never got the chance to fulfill your dreams, you won’t be able to fulfill them ever. But if understand that you have to take your chances as it can never be given until you seek it, you will surely get closer to your dreams.

Many of us believe that everything we have or we are about to get is governed by some eternal energy. In reality, this eternal energy is nothing but our own action. Our actions and words guide us in creating our own life. If we try to be a better person for someone then in that process also we are creating something inside of us which in return helps us in living a better life.

Every choice we make should be wise enough to guide us through a path which is right for us. It is we who can make a life worth living for ourselves and no one else can. So, next time when you have a choice keep your mind and soul open so as to judge it. Either you could be a manger of your life or a destroyer, based on the choices you make or the chances you take.

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Only “Me” can help “Myself”……

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Do you believe in magic? Well, I never did  until one happened to me. I’m not talking about Harry Potter or a secret world inside the wardrobe with mysterious creatures or a rabbit turning into a hideous beast or a true love’s kiss breaking the curse. I didn’t get a magic wand or something but of all the unexpected things that could have happened I ended up meeting this person that day.

As a child I always looked for inspiration in Paragons who did great deal of things for themselves and society. I considered them as my ideals and wanted to be just like one of them. But that day failing from all the sides and ending up into a situation where no one could have possibly inspired me I found my true ideal. Looking at the mirror with pain and fear of failure in my eyes I found the person who could have truly guided me and have been my true ideal. That person was no legend or Paragon, it was me. I found my ideal in me. That was the most magical moment of my life when I finally understood that only me can help myself and only my soul can guide my life.

“Do no look for that ideal person to be with, be that ideal person.”
Jeffrey Fry

 

Trust Your Instincts

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As we grow old, we gain the ability to judge between right and wrong. At times we do get caught in between these two words and are unable to get into a fair calculation. That’s when we get this feeling within ourselves which can solve all the equations. But most of the time it remains unattended within us as we keep ignoring it.

Since the majority deems something to be right, we blindly believe them and consider it as right. Never bother about the hump or feeling that comes from inside of us. Day to day life does offer a lot of such situations to us which require our instincts to communicate. There are chances that the most terrible mistake we ever committed could have been completely avoided only if we had given enough attention to our instincts.

We often create a veil between our inner instincts and obvious realities which never allows our inner voice to reach our mind. The only escape is to Puncture through this veil and reach out to our inner feelings or voices. This inner intuition was always there inside of us but we never allowed our trust to surpass the boundary of doubts.

“Intuition is always right in at least two important ways;
It is always in response to something.
it always has your best interest at heart”― Gavin de Becker, The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence

Our instinct plays a very major role in our life as it helps us in understanding the right purpose in everything we do or every path we choose. It prevents us from the wrong direction when we find ourselves stuck at a point where nothing seems right. It only requires our trust to help us become who we really are and get what we really should get.

Triumph Over Fear….

“To win without risk is to Triumph without glory.” – Pierre Corneille

As we all know that the greatest obstacle to the way of our success is our fear of failure. But the brave man is not the one who never fears but is someone who triumph over it. Every one of us do have our weaknesses and we fear that these weaknesses would never let us through the way of our success. But it doesn’t have to be this way, you should never let your fear hold you back from achieving the goals of your life.

Fear is but a momentary feeling for the one who can challenge his/her fear and look into its eyes only to triumph. There are but only few of us who are really strong enough to break through the curse of fear and come out as the glorious victors. Others give in to the fear and remain in its darkness forever.

There are moments when we try to escape this battle with, thinking the fear will pass soon. But is it the right thing to do. Can we always escape our fears or someday it would haunt us down and will make us so weak that we won’t be able to fight or escape. Initially it may seem difficult but if you start slowly and with one step at a time going forward to your goals, facing your biggest fears you will learn that it’s not that tough either.

The fear of loss is something which remains in everyone’s life. Since we always deny to let go, it makes us weaker enough. The day we learn to let go with no fear of loss to break us, we will be able to triumph over our weaknesses.

“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it.”Nelson Mandela

The Charm of a Tender Heart….

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“There is no charm equal to the Tenderness of heart.” – Jane Austen

The most precious gift a person can have is a tender heart. If you have a tender heart you won’t judge a person by only looking at his/her worst side. You would listen to other person’s perspective as well and never allow yourself to take harsh judgment on people. 

We often end up blaming others for our pain and sufferings. Even if they are the reason you should be able to forgive them and a heart full of affection can never envy anyone. If your heart is full of compassion, you will never feel sad or subdued by any situation and you will be able to cope up with it. If your heart has tenderness in it, then you will be able to use it as a gift to bless and help others who truely needs it.

The only person who can reach to the heart of others is the one whose heart is tender and filled with compassion.

How to deal with tough times?

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Life is not always Crisp and pleasant, it gets tough at times. Since we are never ready to deal with such stressful times, we often end up getting hopeless and depressed. Truth be told we can cope up with these tough times by practicing few strategies that can help us in dealing with it.

1. Looking at the positive side of the things.

No matter what happens in our life, we should always look at the positive side of the things. We should always consider things we have rather than things we don’t have. It will help us feel happy and contended for what we have. We should pay more attention to the positivity around us and drive energy from them.

2. Deal with your problems.

Dealing with your problems so as to dig out the root cause of it and the ways to solve it will help greatly. Rather than brooding over them and making yourself as victim, you should start collecting your problems and making a list of it. You should then make a list of possible solutions and analyse them to select the most suited one. Stay focussed on it and never discourage yourself.

3. Engage yourself in creative works.

One of the most effective ways to deal with your tough time is to utilize that time in some creative work. You can write about your difficulties which will help you release stress, emotions and make you feel more relaxed. It may help you in keeping notes of the events that impacted your life in one way or the other.

4. Share your thoughts and emotions.

You can always reach out for help when you find it difficult enough to deal with your tough times all by yourself. You should never feel embarrassed to ask for advice from someone who can help you. You can even seek professional help if required. There is no shame in getting support if you really need it.

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The intensity of tough times depend on how much it can impact your life and how well you deal with them. Either way the only winner should be you. Never let tough times break you, instead it should make you tougher to deal with anything and everything.

Life as an Introvert…

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An introvert is a person whose actions and reactions are never reflected to the other people and are mostly directed inward. Introverts live in the oblivion of their own thoughts and feelings. They tend to separate themselves from the other people. Introverts generally prefer solitude to interaction with larger group of people.

Being an introvert is rather challenging as people start stereotyping them as cold, selfish and not so friendly. They are often misunderstood by the society and never get a chance to explain what they really feel. But in reality introverts are rather Polished as they pay more attention to all the details of life.

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There are certain traits possessed by an introvert.

1. Isolation from the society.

Introverts always prefer solitude. They take a lot of time to think and reason out things and situation. So, often they take help of isolation to process their stimuli and get to the results. They often feel irritated when put to the exposure of a social situation and end up annoying people around them. They crave for solitude even when they have option to stay with friends and family.

2. Introverts process everything.

Introverts can never concentrate on one single idea or detail. They process every minute details in their surroundings. They take their time to observe and feel every thought and feelings associated with not only people but also the inert things.

3. Contemplation is a must.

For an introvert soul-searching or contemplation is highly required. They take their own time and space to deeply brood over things and situation. They are gifted with the power of imagination. They love to explore a more deeper and inner meaning of life.

4. Slower decision making skills.

An introvert person always process their thoughts and experiences slowly before taking any decision. They travel a long way down their memory lane to locate the information relevent to a particular situation. So, their decisions are delayed but the decisions they make are carefully thought and processed.

5. Silence is the tool of an introvert.

Introverts desire for silence and peace around them. As they often get engaged in deep thoughts they require a more peaceful meditation. They themselves remain quiet in most of the situations reason being their doubts regarding the words they are going to speak. They prefer silence over nonsense talks. So, clearly no one actually bears with their silence and end up avoiding them.

So, you really can’t say that being an introvert is something bad or insulting, it’s rather interesting and advantageous at times. Studies reveal that an introvert have more insights to the critical situations. In this world of chaos we need people who are calm and reasonable with deeper thoughts. So, rather than changing them we should give them proper acceptance in the society.