Letting Go…..

All of us go through a tough past. We all get hurt sometimes and it’s really hard to come out of it. There’s always a part of you trapped in that painful past. But the truth is how you deal with that pain is more important than the pain itself. What would you do with your painful past? Would you leave it behind and move ahead to live a happy life? Or would you stay connected with it and hurt yourself for the rest of your life?

People cannot change their past, what’s done is done. We can only let go of it and move on to make our present better. We often end up regretting our past and cursing ourselves for all our wrong choices. Sometimes we blame ourselves and other times we blame others. Regretting your past others won’t help you and blaming others will not solve a thing.

“The one who never gets done with the past, can never let his/her wounds heal…”

As you know touching the same wound over and over again would never let it heal, it will only make it worse. You have to understand that the music of life is not always relaxing and soft, it may get Brassy sometimes but to live is to enjoy it in all its form.

Four effective ways to let go of your Past

You can only let go of the past to stop it from hurting you. You have to make place for new moments and stop remembering hurtful memories.

1. Let go what’s hurting you.

Nothing really can hurt if you make your mind not to get hurt. If you keep holding the broken pieces of glass, it will only cause pain and nothing else. What’s broken is broken you can’t fix it. So, stop holding back you painful past, let it go.

2. Start sharing with your loved ones.

Sharing your pain with others will help you in many ways. But the fact is most of us never share our pain with anyone. This is not going to help you in any way. You have to open up your heart to your family and friends. They will surely understand and help you to come out of it. As hiding a wound will not heal it, it will only make is worse.

3. Stop regretting your choices.

We always regret our wrong choices and keep blaming ourselves. Will this solve anything? We are humans not gods and humans do mistakes. So either its you or someone else who did wrong, you have to forgive and move on. Mistakes are not for regretting, they are for learning something new about life.

4. Now is what you have.

Live in the present because this is what you have. Past is gone for good and holding onto it will only hurt you. Stop remembering your past and come out of it and live in present. If you live in the present and indulge into it you won’t have your past to trouble you.

“The only way to give your soul exile from the clutches of past is to let go of the past that hurts you. Move on for a better present only to never repeat mistakes of the past.”

The Realm of Perception

 

Each and every one of us live in a world created by our own perception. We interpret things based on our understanding and never mind whether it’s  right or wrong. As a person may look at a glass as half-filled and other person may look at the same glass as half empty and neither of them are actually wrong. So, it’s our perception of things and people around us which govern our way of reacting to them.Human perceptions are different from person to person.

So if a person thinks there’s nothing left for him in this world then indeed there’s nothing left. Even if he has a thousands of things left with him he won’t be able to perceive as he already perceived the emptiness. Every one of us limit our own field of vision as the reality and anything out of this limit seems to be a myth.

Only human perception has the power to open the door between known and unknown. The fact is we all have created our own world which may look unique to us but for others it may look different as they have their own perceptions. As a lie has multiple counter parts similarly a reality can be split into multiple realities. But only a small Portion of it may be perceived and rest remains far from our perception.

Someone rightly said “It’s all in the mind”. We see what our mind allows us to see and everything else may look like a lie or even if it’s visible we don’t bother to see them.

“Your eyes will see what your mind is open to take. If you have created the vision of hell in your mind, even heaven may look like an evil dirty filthy hell. Such is the power of human perception.”

Question is- “How to change your perception?”

The only possible way to change your perception for good is to realize your true strength and accept your weaknesses. You should always have a clear image of yourself in your mind so that you can identify your field of improvement. You have to push your way out of the world of your misconceptions and start rethinking your judgment about things and situation around you.

“The outer world is a reflection of the inner world. Other people’s perception of you is a reflection of them; your response to them is an awareness of you.”- Roy T. Bennett.

Silver Lining-The lost you

We often get lost in our way and look for signs so to find our direction. Sometimes we choose the wrong one and end up loosing our destiny. Someone rightly said destiny is what we make not what we search.

We human always learn from mistakes that’s true but we get disheartened from such mistakes. This is when we need a guiding light, a silver lining in the cloud.

We are always told that with every cloud there’s a silver lining and truth be told. People always look for inspiration in outside world be it a person or situation. But they often fail to understand that the strongest inspiration comes from within. Every and each one of us have the person within us who can motivate us only we need to Trace that person out from within. As you start realising your inner strength and learn from your own experiences you will understand that you are the biggest silver lining of all.

“Your soul is your guiding spirit and is there with you every day of your life. It’s always trying to help you in finding the right path. You should always pay more attention to the warning signals it’s trying to give you. There may be a thousand of problems you are facing and you feel powerless to fix them all by yourself. But you should never feel alone, realize the power within you. You have the ability to solve all your problems and start living a fulfilled life.”

 

 

Imagination: The glory of life

“If you cannot imagine the vision of your dreams how are you ever going to get them. It will be there in front of you all your life but you won’t be able to see it. If you have a strong imagination you could be anything, you could be anywhere and you could be anyone. People can  bind you through boundaries but no one out there has the power to bind your imagination.”

All of us know about time travelers but how many of us believe in them. have you tried knowing what made them travel through time. The answer may be or may not be their imagination. They had such strong imaginations that they broke the boundaries of time but we doesn’t have even a quarter of it to reach there.

This is the story of two captive birds. Every one of us get something as a legacy, they got captivity as a part of their legacy. They had big beautiful wings but they didn’t know how to flap them to fly. But even in that captive condition one of them would always tell the other one that when he will make his first flight it would amaze every one. He would flap his wings with such energy and strength that it  will create turbulence on earth and his soar would be so high that his wings will touch the clouds. The other one would always laugh at him and would consider him as a day dreamer. He learnt to compromise with his condition and accepted it as his ultimate future.  As the days went by both of them grew older and theirs wings grew stronger but only one of them could imagine the strength of his wings and for the other it was just another thing which will be there with him but he won’t be able to use it.

“Anyone who lives within their means suffers from a lack of imagination.”- Oscar Wilde.

One fine day the holy gods showered mercy on them and someone did come to release them from their captivity only to give them another one.

“We have only this opportunity. We have to fly or we’ll be always captives.” The day dreamer asked his fellow bird.

“But how to escape? We don’t know how to fly.” The other one replied.

“You are a bird and you have wings so you can fly.”

“But I never tried that before.”

“There’s always a first time and life never gives you second chance.” The day dreamer said and when the moment came the day dreamer flew to the sky with wings wide open and with such strong flight that no one could keep him captive anymore. His flight did create a turbulence and his soar did reach the clouds. But the other one couldn’t move his wings, his fear stopped him from taking his chances and forced him to captivity again.

What made one bird break his captivity and other one remain captive forever?

The answer is lack of “Imagination”. Your imagination needs no experience or knowledge. It is like a bird with wings wide open soaring high and deep in the sky. Your imagination can break all the barriers setting you free enough to overcome all you weaknesses.

“ The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease for ever to be able to do it.”- J.M. Barrie.

Nowhere but here…

As the raindrops settled on the window pane Henry Buffed them off only to get amazed to see them settle there for quite a while before dripping. Henry wanted to win once and buff them before they could fall themselves. It seemed those raindrops were playing with him.

Sarah observed him doing it for quite a while and wanted to help him understand the secret behind it but she loved to see his innocence. She knew his eight months mind won’t understand these theories of life and he would learn himself as a process of growing up.

How amazing it is to realize the laws of nature all by ourselves. Some things are simply learnt as we grow up but we never realize our strength of understanding. If with time and age a child understands that he can’t buff the raindrops from the other side of the glass then why can’t the same child understand that to find his true strength he doesn’t need someone else’s help. Our true strength resides nowhere but inside our own self.

Depression: Finding Inner Strength

However happy a person may seem the truth is, everyone of us hide an ocean of secrets within our heart which are in some way tormenting us.

Today I’m going to talk about one such person we all know and admire. When we talk about famous people we always address them as the most fulfilled humans but behind that illusion of fulfillment they are undergoing a continuous combat against “Depression”.

“Depression is the most unpleasant thing I have ever experienced…. It is that absence of being able to envisage that you will ever be cheerful again. The absence of hope. That very deadened feeling, which is so very different from feeling sad. Sad hurts but it’s a healthy feeling. It is a necessary thing to feel. Depression is very different.” – J.K. Rowling.

Whenever we read “Harry Potter” one question always pops up in our mind- “How such an amazing idea came into the author’s mind?” J.K Rowling the author and creator of “Harry Potter” was actually overcoming severe depression when she developed this mesmerizing idea.  Have you ever imagined how you could actually harness your weakness and generate your biggest strength out of it. Well if she could why can’t us.

” That was characterized by a numbness, a coldness and an inability to believe you will feel happy again. All the color drained out of life.” She explained her state by these words.

She was hit by depression in her late twenties when she was left with her young daughter alone and unemployed after her marriage broke. Ever since that doomed incidence she couldn’t find any hope or happiness in her life. She was caught in between the responsibilities as a single mother and the fear that everything will turn into an awful tragedy. It was then she started her very first novel “Harry Potter and The Philosopher’s Stone” just to overcome her depression.

” Failure meant a stripping away of inessential. I stopped pretending to myself that I was, and began to direct all my energy to finishing the only work that mattered to me – Harvard Commencement address, 2008.”

It was her true depressive feelings which turned into the idea of hiddious soul sucking Dementors. These creature she characterized as the most filthiest of all other creatures who walk in darkness and feed upon the happiness, hope and peace of humans.

She turned these ideas into her writings and made writing her weapon to fight depression. She made it her strength and what happened after that is history. She is always open to discussion on her journey of overcoming depression so that people who are affected worldwide can fight their battle against it. 

Her journey to achieve what her heart desired was not easy. She went through a lot of ups and downs falling into the prey of depression. But she managed to fight through it and come out of it as a hero. Only to inspire all others who are still out there struggling and need a guiding light.

Dear Me…..

Dear me…..

I may not be the one who gives you ultimate happiness…..

But I promise I would never give you pain….

I may not add diverse colors in your life…..

But I will always be there with you at the rainbow’s end…..

I may not be the angel of your life…..

But I would never let the devil touch your life…..

I may not be the one about whom you always think first…..

But I am sure enough that I would never stop thinking about you….

I may not be your strength…..

But I assure you that I would never be your weakness….